Being an adoption professional and adoptive mother for 18+ years has taught me a profound truth: every child’s story begins somewhere, and permanency is deeply personal. As we approach National Adoption Month, I’m reminded of what November has meant to our family over the years. In our home, this month holds double significance – it’s not just Adoption Month, but also the month our son was born. Being present in the delivery room for his birth was an indescribable gift. Even more precious is the relationship we continue to share with his first mom eighteen years later.
Our son’s story began in that delivery room, and we’ve been intentional about ensuring he owns his narrative. We’ve structured our lives to ensure he sees racial mirrors of himself reflected in our community, understanding the vital importance of representation and belonging. We have made space and encouraged a relationship with his family of origin. This has not always been easy but it has always been necessary.
As we usher in Adoption Awareness Month, we must center our focus on those most impacted by adoption – the children. Let’s open our hearts and truly listen to those who have experienced the complex interweaving of grief, loss, and love that adoption brings. We must remember that permanency is personal and should be treated as such.
The reality we face is stark: Black children are disproportionately represented in the child welfare system and spend longer in foster care than other children. At Families Rising, we’re committed to changing this narrative. We continue to urge public and private child welfare agencies to end racial discrimination and bias in adoption recruitment, selection, and placement.
As a social worker and adoptive mother, I’m inspired by the positive changes we’re making in our work, communities, and homes to ensure adopted children and those touched by the foster care system remain at the heart of everything we do.
Ready to be part of this important change? Explore our website to learn more about our initiatives and how you can support our mission. Together, we can create a more equitable and supportive future for all children. For more information about our stance on racial equity in child welfare and our recommended actions, please explore our resources on our website.